After a little one – or two or three – and you’re back at work, life can be one big balancing act. Being a working mom is sometimes a personal choice, sometimes a financial one, sometimes it’s about being stimulated and having an identity outside the home. Whatever the reason, it can be tough for mommies whatever their role. Here are a few tips to relax and unwind from our multifaceted lives.
Time for Yourself
Time for you is key, it’s also easier said than done. But a happier mom often leads to happier kids and happier dads (or whatever your family composition is). It can be extremely difficult to take even a short time to yourself, but make sure you do it regularly. Even if it’s as simple as a quick 15-minute walk by yourself, a cup of coffee in your favorite armchair or catching up on the new must-see Netflix series – make sure there’s something in your day that’s just for you.
Tender Loving Care
A little TLC for your body is also really good for you – and we don’t mean dieting and exercising to lose that baby weight – we just mean staying connected to your body and keeping it well and moving. Why not try a little stretching when you get a spare moment? Fit in bit of yoga – just even 15 minutes. Getting the stress and tension out of your body regularly is important; holding it there can lead to all sorts of aches, pains and tensions. If you can afford it and have the time, a regular massage can work wonders. Holistic treatments can often help your mind and body – regular reiki and reflexology are extremely relaxing and regenerative.
A purely for fun hobby is also great for anyone’s well being and fulfillment. We all should have something we absolutely love and that we do for no other reason than this. If you’re crafty, there’s so many things to choose from – sewing, knitting, painting, furniture restoration or jewelry making. An avid reader? Why not join a book club, find some author events near you or have a go at writing your own poetry? Sporty? Join a team, challenge a friend to a game of badminton or take up outdoor cycling? We’re all different, and one person’s heaven can often be another person’s hell, but at the end of the day, we all need something purely for ourselves.
Work life balance is so important, although it’s that elusive holy grail pretty much everyone is chasing. Try to remember – particularly on your worst work days or as shouty emails are landing in your inbox – that this is a job and that there are other jobs out there. You are more than just a worker, or a wife or a mom, you are you and there’s only one of you. You need to take care of yourself as much as you take care of others.